relationships 101.3

… and so it is that i’m back to my little opinions about how to find/nourish/prolong l’amour.  the return of relationships 101.

• find the opposite of your ex.

it will do you a lot of good- more good than you could imagine. think about it: why did you break up in the first place? chances are, if you find someone completely different, you might not have those same problems.

if you keep looking for the same man. and it’s that same man that you keep failing with, then learn your goddamn lesson.

don’t get me wrong. i’m not saying it’s easy as pie to go ahead and look for someone different than your norm, but just try to be open to it. you could end up finally proving yourself wrong. you could finally end up happy.

it might even open your eyes to something you never thought you’d like… then all of sudden, it becomes something you love.

{+10 exp: i never thought being funny was on my list of priorities. then i found a funny guy. i realized that i didn’t have to be the only funny one in the relationship. trust me, life is way more interesting when your mate is anti-boring.}

significantly important post script:

• make sure YOU are different than HIS ex.

if you find yourself being compared by other people to the former lady in his life- you know, the whole “you look like her… you remind me of her… you’re totally his type… and so on and so forth,” you might want to stop the relationship in its tracks. perhaps he’s just filling the void… with you.

you’re worse than a rebound. you’re just “her 2.0“.

be different. break the mold. prove to him that you’re not a substitute. you’re there to be the breath of fresh air that he needs in his life- not the failed sequel of an already horrific part I. don’t just make up for the negative space that she left behind.

add something to his life… be everything she wasn’t.